We frequently avoid three things: people, places, and things. While it may seem like a simple survival instinct to avoid that which causes us discomfort or stress, this behavior pattern could have far-reaching effects.

Avoidance, as a behavior, is more than procrastination or laziness; it’s a deliberate act to stay away from certain situations, individuals, or environments that make us feel anxiety or discomfort. It serves as a shield, a coping mechanism to get through our emotions' complexities.

It’s important to understand that avoidance isn’t always harmful. Avoiding a hazardous location, a toxic individual, or a harmful substance is obviously beneficial. The problem comes about when avoidance turns into an all-encompassing coping mechanism, cutting you off from experiences, growth, and life, in general.

Consistent avoidance leads to:

• Lack of emotional growth. We don’t learn to deal with our emotions effectively when our head is always in the sand.

• Increased anxiety and stress. Avoiding something may provide temporary relief, but in the long run, only grows in fear and reinforces your internal belief that the situation is unmanageable.

• Stunted relationships. Avoidance leads to poor communication, and misunderstandings, and it even isolates you from your loved ones.

• Lost opportunities. By avoiding uncomfortable situations, you are also missing out on growth opportunities and new experiences.

So, why do we do it?

The most common reason people use avoidance is due to fear and anxiety. It’s a survival mechanism that protects us, but when it’s misplaced, it begins to work against your inherent ability to cope with life’s inevitable challenges.

Even as children, we are taught to avoid conflicts. Evading minor responsibilities might seem like a quick remedy for a peaceful existence. However, it's essential to recognize that this relief is merely temporary, as those tasks and responsibilities will inevitably catch up with us and demand our attention sooner or later.

Facing uncomfortable situations requires courage. And, it’s in these very moments that our true strength emerges. Don’t run from challenges - confront them.

Each encounter with difficulty is an opportunity for personal growth. The more we brave these situations, the stronger we become.

We learn. We grow. We evolve.

It’s not about winning or losing, but about having the courage to stand up, face the challenge, and come out stronger on the other side.

In pursuit of courage,

Erin