In the pursuit of living a fulfilling life, there is a fundamental concept to grasp: Owning your experiences is critical.

It is for this very reason that I love the concept of coaching, in comparison to counseling - coaching is identifying where you are in your life TODAY, where you want to be in the FUTURE and how you can get there proactively. We have all experienced versions of trauma and unfortunate experiences in the past, but those experiences are in the past.

You have control over your future!

If you find yourself constantly in a struggle, continually pointing fingers, and blaming others for your predicament, you are letting go of control of your life. Your life’s course should not be dictated by external circumstances or people but should be guided by your own choices and decisions.

Remember this…

Blaming others for your struggles is a disempowering move. It’s a subtle way of conceding that you are not in control of your life. Instead, you’re allowing others to dictate your narrative and to shape your future. It places you in a position to be reactive, where you become more of a spectator of your own life, rather than a participant.

Is it easier to blame others for your struggles? Perhaps.

Is it a comfortable escape from being accountable? It might be.

Does it perpetuate a cycle of self-pity and powerlessness? It certainly does.

Does it provide a long-term solution? Absolutely NOT!

When you shift the blame onto others, you are giving up the opportunity to grow from your experiences. You miss the chance to assess your actions, understand your mistakes, and make better choices moving forward.

Accept responsibility for your life. 

Empower yourself to take proactive steps toward improving your circumstances.

And, by doing so, you will find that struggles are not roadblocks, but stepping stones for personal development. The blame game doesn’t exist in this life. Instead, you choose to look inward, take accountability for your shortcomings, and pivot with necessary changes.

The path to this is challenging, I get it. And, it requires hard work and self-reflection on your end. But, it is the best path you can take in order to regain control of your life. 

Each time you blame someone else, you are stepping away from your inherent power to transform your life. Whereas, every time you accept responsibility for your experiences, you repossess the control of your life. 

It’s never too late to change course.

Ask yourself these questions:

• What obstacles are you ready to overcome?

• What sacrifices are you prepared to make?

• What steps are you willing to take to gain control of your life?

Identify these and follow them. Because this is your personal blueprint for living a fulfilling and empowering life.

In pursuit of empowerment, 

Erin